Is ‘Cognitive Photoshop’ Making You Anxious?

Nobody wants to deal with negative emotions.

Outrage, uneasiness, discouragement, and the parcel are not amiable or politically right to discuss in numerous social settings. They feel awkward, and it’s anything but difficult to pass judgment on ourselves as being “feeble” for having them, regardless of whether we don’t buy in to Pollyanna-esque gullibility.

So we figure out how to deal with our negative emotions. One regular way we do this is by performing what I call “psychological Photoshop”— supporting our sentiments away and ending up unnecessarily stern with ourselves for having human feelings. Basically, we utilize our brains to clarify and afterward practically sidestep our encounters.

Do any of these practices sound well-known?

“Complexity” setting: We say things like, “It’s no major ordeal. It’s not as awful as starving youngsters or somewhere in the vicinity thus’ circumstance.” Pain turns into an opposition, as if we’re not permitted to feel it since another person has it more terrible.

“Splendor” setting: We utilize clichés like “Think positive!” and “Be proactive!” While it’s imperative to be idealistic and arrangement centered, we can’t sidestep the truth of our encounters. Furthermore, here and there, our encounters are negative—even dull.

“Features” setting: Gratitude constructs mental and enthusiastic wellness, yet when we’re stretching out ourselves endeavoring to invoke 10 things to scribble as the day progressed, it can in some cases turn into a persistent mechanical exercise that really makes us unfit to feel thankful.

“Sympathy” channel: We say things like “Hurt individuals hurt individuals” to legitimize why we should give others a chance to escape with repeating harmful conduct, yet we neglect to be compassionate to ourselves—regardless of whether we’re feeling harmed or being exploited. Since we care more about others’ emotions than our own, compassion turns into our kryptonite, and this prompts sympathy burnout.

“Everybody bargains, so for what reason wouldn’t you be able to?” channel: We don’t discuss our troublesome occasions, so we feel alone and envision every other person managed better. We judge ourselves for being feeble and enthusiastic.

“Shit occurs” channel: We reveal to ourselves things like passings, misfortunes, and situations are a piece of life, thus we anticipate that ourselves will suck it up and trooper on without giving ourselves authorization to lament or process them.

“Handy solution” channel: We expect that popping a pill, cleaning up, or going to yoga will phenomenally tackle the issue, aside from that we’re simply making a cursory effort.

“Time travel” channel: When frequented by the past, we reprimand ourselves about how it’s been “such a long time ago” and anticipate that ourselves will “simply wake up.”

Eventually there comes a point where logic fails to hold the fort, and this erupts as anxiety attacks, panic attacks, or the times you “let it out”—doing the things you regret like drinking excessively, having a meltdown, or saying things you don’t mean.
When that happens, you affirm to yourself that your feelings are dangerous.

The vicious cycle of cognitive Photoshop and anxiety perpetuates.

Stop Managing. Start Mastering.

When we harness our emotions as vital sources of information to guide us, our brains can then use that information to start working for us, rather than against us. When the brain and the heart are working in tandem, it opens up a pathway to heal from past pains, free ourselves from anxiety’s constant grasp, and walk toward living more fulfilling lives.