The Ultimate Single Girls Valentine’s Day Survival Guide
by Charlotte Standley
Spending your 2019 Valentine’s Day as a lone wolf can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be! It’s time to rewire your brain’s Anti-Valentine’s Day program to make this year’s holiday a blast.
Not only is this holiday an opportunity to have a single party, but this year’s day of love can be a start to truly empowering yourself as an individual. Let’s follow the golden rule, and treat yourself as you would like your lover to treat you.
Plan ahead this year to have Valentine’s Day go the way YOU want it, even if you’re brave enough to step out on the town solo!
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Do Not Base Your Mindset Off Of Expectations
As a savvy single girl, you know how easy it is to become jealous and frustrated while convincing yourself what you could or should be doing if you had a lover. Get rid of this crappy mindset and throw it out the window!
Overthinking about what society tells you do to, like going to a romantic restaurant/bar, snuggling up to watch a movie, or sharing cute lovey-dovey photos of you and your lover on Instagram, does not reduce your urge to be driven up the wall by the fact that you’re single. These are just societal ideal expectations that you are should not be brainwashed to follow.
Instead, laugh it up! Bringing yourself to be a Negative Nancy does your mind no good. Laughing releases endorphins, which boosts energy, acts as a natural painkiller, and enhances your mood. Do something you enjoy or something that brings you confidence.
Often, people use being with others as an escape — an escape from themselves. If you’re with others, then the focus is on them, not you. But how well do you really know yourself? Being single is a precious time that can be used to really get to know and love yourself. So spend the time getting to know you. Discover new things. Work on personal growth.
On Valentine’s Day, catch up on all those articles you’ve been wanting to read, pop on a hilarious movie or perhaps one of the best thrillers like My Bloody Valentine? My Mom personally liked Happy Death Day 2U🙂 View review below. And cuddle up on the couch with your pet(s) and a nice snuggly blanket.
Practice self care! Treat yourself to a tasty but healthy snack like a heavenly yogurt parfait with fruit, seeds and chocolate.
Don’t just be with someone because you don’t want to be alone! How many people do you know that just ‘settle’ because they hate being alone? If that’s you think about why you hate being alone so much? Don’t you like yourself?
You should love being alone because you are an amazing person!
Besides that, there are so many things you can do alone! You don’t need someone to ‘complete’ you! You are already complete. And if you feel you aren’t then get to work on completing yourself personally. That doesn’t take another person. That takes your own internal work.
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Prevent Yourself From Feeling Lonely
It may not be as easy as it sounds, but there are plenty ways to not feel like such a single pringle on Valentine’s Day.
Connect with other people you know who are single. Yes, forming a pack of singles can be healthy and should not further immerse your mind in the awful thoughts of being single. After all, not everyone is in a relationship, married or even celebrating Valentine’s day together!
It’s often misinterpreted that loneliness is only caused by excessive isolation from people. This is an obvious reason, and of course someone with little social life can easily feel lonely.
But loneliness can be felt even if a person is surrounded by others all the time. This is because you rather feel more comforted by the people who share the same interests as you. So surrounding yourself with family or close friends is your best bet.
Nothing feels better than going out with people who understand you! So joining a group with like-minded people is the best thing you can do.
Plan a special girls/or just you weekend:
- Karaoke Night
- Hike with your dogs
- Beach walk (if you live in the south!)
- Wine Tasting
- Movie Night
- Shooting range (nothing says girl power like this!)
- Spa day/self-maintenance day
- Yoga retreat
- Volunteer (give back!)
- Pet sit with homeless animals
- Book club/reading
- Art/painting class
- Gym Time
- Try that new recipe you’ve been putting off
- Get out and meet someone new!
Take Advantage Of Being Single
Instead of browsing through the ways being in a relationship could make you feel better, try thinking of ways being single can benefit you.
Tell yourself, “there is absolutely no shame in being single”. In fact, people highly respect others who are independent or completely self-reliant; especially women. Take this time to work on yourself whether that regards your work goals, mental health, physical health, etc…
You can do whatever YOU want to, so take advantage of this in a healthy manner. A relationship takes work and will wilt just like a flower if you don’t water it constantly and give it proper care.
It can be totally exhausting considering a partner’s feelings about everything, dedicating time and attention to them, and keeping up with communications.
Living independently can be quite emancipating!
Your Worth Is Not Set By Your Relationship Status
Know your value. It is not determined by your money, popularity, looks, and certainly not your relationship status.
Learn your own value by setting boundaries and high standards. Point is, be selective! Do not settle for a partner with poor traits that could potentially rub off on you:
- Always focused on sex
- Emotionally closed off
- No self-control
- Close-minded intellectually
Surround yourself with people who will force you to “level up”. Knowing or discovering your value is important because they highlight what you stand for. When we honor our personal values consistently, we experience fulfillment.
This a huge key for confidence in Women as it’s a healthy and empowering way to uplift yourself and teach yourself to expect more from a partner if you desire to have one in the future.
This Valentine’s Day, don’t choose to shower yourself in single-regrets. Have a positive mindset and remember that being single is idyllic and good!
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